if there is one thing that i have learnt from my years of horse breaking, it is that the statement "I can pull harder then you can!" should not be found, even in the darkest part, of your vocabulary and if it is then it should be thrown out and replaced by "there is a reason you are doing this, there is a problem, let me help you fix it."
there are two sides to every game,
each player has a goal,
and you know what they say,
two heads are better than one.